You thought the whole idea of soulmates was more aboutpoetic licensethan reality—until you met this person.
And it’s as if you’ve always known each other.
Yet you can’t recall ever meeting them before.
You’ve heard a little about bothtwin flamesand soulmates, but you’re not sure which one this person is—or whether it even matters.
Let’s say it does, though.
How do you tell the difference?
What Are Twin Flames?
A simple twin flame definition describes it as two souls who are each half of one or mirrors of each other, which is why they’re also called “mirror souls.”
Twin flames share a deep, intense connection because they share the same strengths and weaknesses — and often the same pain, which draws them closer.
So, in a nutshell, you can spot twin flames by the following markers:
- They’re instantly drawn to each other;
- They mirror each other’s strengths and weaknesses; and
- They often develop a quick and intense浪漫的connection.
What Are Soulmates?
Asoulmate connection通过以下方式与双火焰连接不同：
- Instead of mirroring each other, soulmates balance each other out;
- Soulmates are different enough to be naturally compatible with each other;
- Soulmates can share a浪漫的love or a deep, platonic friendship.
It seems like the perfect relationship, right? It’s tempting to think soulmate connections are superior to what twin flames share. But it’s not that simple.
你的双胞胎火焰可以成为你的灵魂伴侣吗？
This brief overview gives you some idea of the difference between a soulmate and twin flame, but how different are they, really? Both tend to forge quick and strong connections.
So, can your twin flame also be a soulmate—or vice-versa?
Despite their apparent similarities, twin flames cannot be soulmates because they’re too alike. While soulmates belong together in a blissful unity of different minds, twin souls help each other grow in self-awareness andself-love. And growth can be messy.
The two are not the same. And life is better with both.
Which is Better—Soulmate or Twin Flame?
Neither is better because both serve different purposes. While both soulmates and twin flames have the power to improve your life vastly, each brings something different to it.
Twin flame relationships can go down one of two roads:
- At their best, they help each soul grow into their fullest potential;
- At their worst, they can amplify insecurities and lead to tumultuous relationships.
Soulmate relationships are naturally compatible and often less challenging than a twin flame relationship, making it easier but less likely to stimulate learning and growth.
It doesn’t mean they can’t; soulmates oftendo互相帮助成为自己更好的版本。
It’s not so much a question of soulmate vs. twin flame.
The differences between them only serve to highlight each one’s potential for making life better—as you’ll see in the list below.
双火焰与灵魂伴侣：您应该知道的7个差异
现在你所看到的知音和双生子火焰解释一下d, it’s time to dig a little deeper. Only when you explore everything that sets the two apart can you determine whether the person you know is a twin flame or soulmate.
浏览下面的差异，并记下您一生中与您的联系比其他任何人都更加牢固的人。
1. Soulmates are meant to be together. Twin flames are meant to teach you something about yourself.
That second bit regarding twin flames goes for both of you: your twin flame is there to mirror your own strengths and weaknesses to help you see them more clearly — so you can see what needs your attention.
The relationship is meant to teach youbothsomething you need to learn.
Soulmates are相处良好的亲属精神and tend to help each other grow (if more slowly) without the conflict or chaos that can often characterize twin flame relationships.
2. Soulmates are naturally compatible. Twin flames are too similar to be compatible.
When you meet someone who mirrors your own weaknesses and insecurities, you feel that you recognize them. But it’s natural not to want to be confronted with the things you don’t particularly likeabout yourself.
It feels like a confrontation, anyway. You see the things you don’t like in yourself mirrored in your twin flame—along with things youdolike about yourself.
That familiar mix draws you in and can even feel like a sort of vindication (“Look how awesome they are — and you’re so alike! So, you must be awesome, too. Knew it.”)
That similarity, though, means you don’t really compliment each other; you share the same strengths, along with the same weaknesses. In other words, your strengths don’t offset their weaknesses, and vice-versa.
You’re drawn together. But you don’t really fit together.
3.你只有onetwin flame. You can have more than one soulmate.
Not everyone has a twin soul, but you can only have one as a rule. The reason for this is the idea that twin souls are two halves of a whole–which is why you might feel more like a complete person when your twin soul is near.
This能够lead to problems, as you’ll see further on.
每个人都有一个灵魂伴侣。与灵魂伴侣一起，您甚至可以拥有多个。
灵魂伴侣的关系可以是浪漫或柏拉图式. You could have a soulmate who’s your partner and another soulmate who’s your best platonic friend. You always enjoy each other’s company. You’re different people who feel at ease with each other.
4. Twin flame relationships can become toxic. Soulmate relationships do not.
双火焰不仅反映了彼此的最佳和最差品质，而且还倾向于放大两者，如果解决问题领域的工作也不会导致混乱甚至破坏性的关系。
If you’re both insecure and tend towardpassive-aggressive behavior, you’ll both be using those tactics on each other.
Both could be making assumptions about the other’s motives while acting on those assumptions in ways that undermine and eventually destroy the relationship.
On the other hand, soulmates are different enough to help balance each other out. They’re also accepting of each other’s whole selves and less likely to judge or assume the worst. Both want to help the other heal and grow.
5. Twin flames can become overly dependent on each other. Soulmates remain independent.
With a strong twin soul connection, you feel less whole when separated from them. Separating from them feels like losing an essential part of yourself.
说再见感觉就像是一种死亡。因为从非常真实的意义上讲，它是。您正在摆脱一个感觉非常像您的人 - 您所爱和不喜欢自己的人。感觉好像您正在分裂。
即使您俩都需要分离，您也很可能会抵抗这一点。
On the other hand, soulmates are different enough to still feel separate from each other. Complementary as they are, they don’t feel as if death would be the natural consequence of separation, even if both would prefer death, given a choice.
They remain independent souls. And they love that about each other.
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6. Twin flames may feel a need to escape each other or take time apart. Soulmates do not.
Separation is often one of the stages of a twin flame relationship because being continually reminded of your worst qualities (as well as your best) can be exhausting—especially when you both amplify each other’s weaknesses.
You’re meant to learn from each other. But until you both do the work of addressing those weaknesses, you’ll continually find each other’s company an unwelcome reminder.
Often, it takes a separation to stimulate the growth that has to happen in each of you. Once you begin the process and you’re both working to improve yourselves, a renewed connection can help you both continue on the right path.
7.双火的关系以课程为中心。灵魂伴侣的关系以连接为中心。
一旦您学到了教训（或课程），您的双火焰就可以向您展示（并且您打算向他们展示），那么恋爱关系可能会在那里结束。您可能会发现自己自然而然地散开，以单独的生物蓬勃发展。
In fact, once you’ve both learned what you need to learn, separation may be the final lesson. Staying together could be the last thing holding each of you back from becoming the independent forces of nature you were born to be.
That said, once you do grow as you’re meant to, twin flames often find their way back to each other.
With soulmates, it’s different. Staying together makes you both stronger without compromising your independence or growth.
你们俩都不必须与对方分开以发挥最大的潜力。
Can Twin Flames Be Together?
The short answer is yes, but it’s usually more complicated than that. Whether a twin flame relationship becomes a truly unified whole depends on what both people bring to the relationship. It also depends on what both people learn from it.
Twin flame relationships can be toxic if both “flames” simply amplify the weaknesses and insecurities of the other without either one exerting themselves to address those issues.
It is possible, though, for twin flames to end up together in a healthy relationship if both can overcome their shared insecurities and triggers.
一切都取决于两者都愿意做些什么来发展并保持联系。
Now that you know the critical differences between twin souls and soulmates, which one sounds like the best fit for the person you have in mind?
What comes to mind when you think of the possibility of losing them or living far away from them? What do you most love about your relationship and your time together?
And what will you do today to celebrate what you have?
