So your ex dumped you not too long ago, or maybe you left him.
It was painful for both of you because there really was化学andconnection between you。
Maybe even love.
您已经考虑了重新聚在一起的想法，但是您的前任行为很奇怪。
You’ve seen him at parties or run into him at Starbucks, and he’s trying to actdistant and cool。
But you know him, and there’s something behind the正面that says he stillloves you(or at least isn’t entirely over you).
都是真实的勇敢吗？
Or is there a wedge in his heart that wants to be pried open?
让我们找出答案，好吗？
如何知道您的前任是否超越了您
At first, you asked yourself, “Is my ex over me or just angry?” After all, he was super-pissed when he walked out the door.
Maybe you did something that made him so upset he broke up with you. Or you decided tobreak up with him因为hedid something not so cool.
But now you’re a bit confused. You’re getting mixed messages. But things are usually pretty straightforward with someone who is genuinely done with a relationship. You don’t second-guess yourself or him when it’s dead in the water.
如果他完全完成了您的工作，这就是您所看到的：
- He acts indifferent to you.Not angry, not upset, not sentimental. He acts like you’re a slightly irritating acquaintance.
- 他没有回复短信或电话，即使是出于实际原因。他不能打扰。他可能完全阻止了您的电话号码。
- He has started seeing someone else以及他们两个在社交媒体上的露天透明照片。这个新人不在展示或让您感到难过。他显然恋爱了。
- 他为你感到难过。男孩做了那个刺痛。在他看来，你过去的那个“好女孩”使他感到有些内gui。但是有点。
If you see these behaviors, there’s no pretense to be found. It’s time to move on and stop worrying about what he’s feeling or thinking. You have bigger fish to fry.
But you’re here because you’re getting glimpses of something entirely different — something that makes you wonder if your ex is putting on an act.
11肯定迹象表明您的前任假装要结束您
好的，让我们进行一些调查侦查，并弄清楚这件事。如果您想知道如何知道您的前任是否超越了您，some sure signs您需要提防。您可能已经看到其中一些。
1。He Texts You About Practical Stuff to Stay Connected
You’re getting texts like, “Did I leave my sunglasses at your place,” or “I heard your sister is sick. Hope she’s ok.”
足够好，但肯定不romantic或脆弱。很明显，他正在进行钓鱼探险，看看您是否对谈论事情有柔软或感兴趣。
He doesn’t need to send these texts. If he were really over the relationship, he wouldn’t text, or he’d ask someone else to reach out to you to find his sunglasses.
2.他把一些东西留在你的位置，不会得到
他的一些必需品仍在您的浴室和壁橱里。当然，他可以去买新的toothbrush,但是那些昂贵的耐克吗?为什么’t he come to get those?
Maybe it has to do with the fact that he’s harboring hopes you’ll be back together, and his things will once again have a legit home in your home.
如果他不舒服回到你家或不想见你，他可以派一个朋友去找他的东西 - 你知道他需要和想要的东西。
3. He’s Left Stuff at Your Place and Uses It as a Reason to Come Over
You told him you’d leave his belongings in the garage for him to pick up while you’re at work, but he comes over to get them when you’re home. And he doesn’t enter through the garage and then leaves right away.
He comes inside to chat you up a bit, even while trying to maintain a detached demeanor. He might even ask what you’ve been up to and whether or not you’redating someone- 只是为了获得土地。
如果您还没有继续前进或看到一线希望，那么他就留下了一些物品，所以他有一个有理由再次回来。“糟糕！我忘记了我的炸爸爸。”
4.他出现在你总是经常去的地方
He knows your grocery store and where you like to get coffee on Saturday mornings. He knows where you work and live and where your friends and family live.
就像幻影一样，他在这些地方或城镇的这些地方或撞向您的地方都会“随机”出现。即使当您遇到他时，他对您的表现也很冷，他的外表也会揭示出另一个动机。
Of course, he’s trying to cross paths with you. Why else would he place himself where he knows you might be? He knows how to avoid you if he’s lost interest entirely.
这些是notsigns your ex is bitterand wants nothing to do with you. Quite the opposite. He想念你，想见你。He’s hoping the accidental encounter might lead to a conversation — which might lead to a reunion.
5.他正在跟踪您的社交媒体帐户
If you’re able to see who’s looking at your posts on social media, then you have a keyhole into the mind of your ex.
Has he been looking at your comments and photos? A lot? If so, he’s showing more than just curiosity. He’s been thinking about you and wants to know what you’ve been up to.
He may be looking to see if you’re dating someone else or whether or not you’ve removed pictures of the two of you together when you were an item.
Someone who has moved on emotionally has little interest in what you’ve been up. He’s too busy with his new life.
6. He’s Kept Pictures of the Two of You on His Social Media
看看他的社交媒体，看看你们两个的照片是否仍然处于自豪之中。如果您已经分开了足够长的时间，以至于他有足够的时间去除它们，但是它们仍然在那里，那松鼠了。
He may tell your mutual friends that he’s over you, but actions speak louder than words. Why is your face all over his social media if he’s so over you?
即使他不经常看自己的帐户，他也很聪明，知道一个未来的未来女友也不会想看到您可爱的脸部散落在整个地方。
7. He Stares at You When You’re Not Looking
如果您一起工作，一起上学或继续互相奔波，他试图假装无视您。但是，当您瞥见他的方式时，他正在用那些小狗的眼睛看着你。
当他看到你看时，他的脸变硬，变红了，他很快就移开了视线。但是您可以看到它。他的自我不能让您看到他的真实感受，尤其是如果您是分手的煽动者。
8. You’ve Heard from Friends that He Is In Bad Shape
当你看到他时,他的痛苦和愤怒。他可以英航rely look at you. But when his friends see him, he’s despondent. They’ve sworn you to secrecy because they don’t want him to know they told you.
But they是告诉您，因为他们怀疑或完全知道他没有结束您，并且想和解。也许他确切地知道他在这里做什么。他知道您的朋友会向您报告，所以他看到门上是否有裂缝。
Is there? If you’re still interested, you may need to do some sleuthing to find out how serious he is about reuniting.
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9.他一直在打电话检查你
He’s always been a nice guy, so him calling to see if you’re ok isn’t unusual. Except that he was pretty clear when he said he wanted to date other people. So why does he keep calling to see if you’re dealing with everything?
也许他正在向您投射他所经历的感觉。也许这种约会的事情不是他的期望，或者他意识到他真的通过一件好事就搞砸了。
He wants to inch his way back in by being mister nice guy, even while he’s saying everything in the dating world is just peachy. But the words sound hollow, and he seems lonely.
10.他努力地显得快乐
His social media is filled with “life is awesome” pics and photos. He’s posted more since your break-up than in all the time you were together. And he knows you look at social media.
It appears he’s overplaying his hand by beefing up his happy meter. In your happiest moments together, he was never this over the top.
自从分手以来，您遇到他的时代，他谈论了他的神奇生活和所有fun things他在做。但是您的胡说八道探测器处于高度戒备状态。这位绅士抗议太多了。这些是signs your ex is miserable— not happy.
11。He Tries Too Hard to be Nonchalant about Your Life
因此，您在杂货店遇到了他，他都很微笑和愉悦。“您看起来好棒！你好吗？希望生活对你有好处！”
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If he was over you, you might get a “Hey, how’s it going?” Or he might scoot to the next aisle to avoid bumping into you.
但是，这里的阳光雷先生正在采取一项可以赢得奥斯卡奖的举动。一旦他完成了向您展示的艰苦努力，这里没有错，他的身体和举止下滑。
If you want to test it, just say, “I really miss you,” and see what he does. Dollars to doughnuts, his genuine joy will show up.
Is My Ex Pretending to Be Over Me?
如果您不得不问自己这个问题，那么赔率是，他仍然为您拿着火炬。您已经看到了这些迹象，您的直觉告诉您，他的行为掩盖了他的话。
Does that suggest he’s ready to get back together? Or that you are? Only time will tell. But for now, you might want to reexamine whether this relationship still has potential. Stranger things have happened.
