The moment you say something like, “I don’t haveany hobbies,” you can see it in their faces: pity…skepticism……难以置信。
Suddenly, you’re just not that interesting.
但是，实际上，拥有爱好甚至有多重要？
Other people’s hobbies sound dull, exhausting, or both. Who needs that?
但是，如果您在想，“没有什么让我感兴趣，我想对此做爱”，您可能是错误的。
好奇的?
Read on.
没有爱好可以吗？
“But what interests do you have?” they ask because theremustbesomething.
“I have no interests,” you answer. The thing is, it’s not that you have no interest inanything超出了人类的基本需求。您只是厌倦了人们，假设您需要一个迷人的爱好才能举行他们的兴趣。
您在业余时间所做的事情不必为了达到其他人的价值而达到的指标。它只需要受益youin some way by:
- Helping you relax- 或为某事而兴奋；
- 让您有机会独自思考；
- 给你一些要笑的东西；
- 允许您以自己的方式放松；
- 创建一个时间和空间just… for…you.
It’s not productivity or intellectual stimulation that makes something a hobby. In fact, look up the word “hobby,” and the main requirement isrelaxation.
思考的食物。
为什么您正在努力寻找爱好
是什么真正阻止您尝试新事物？还是什么使您更难对基本人类功能以外的任何事物感兴趣？
You’re not alone in this, after all. And any of the following could be getting in the way:
- 未经治疗的抑郁症—making it harder to feel interested in anything
- 未加工的创伤- 避免触发情况
- 疲劳或低能量- 慢性病或睡眠不足
- Social Anxietyor Being Asocial- 与他人一起做事很难
- 缺乏个人追求的时间- 忙于工作或其他事情
- Lacking Money- 这通常意味着牺牲休闲时间
You might be dealing with a combination of these, which makes it extra hard to not only find a hobby but spend any amount of regular time on it.
It doesn’t makeyouany less interesting or less worthy of someone’s attention. It could mean, though, that it’s time to address the things that are making life such a slog.
Not so you can win a “most interesting person” award but because you deserve it.
I Have No Hobbies: 9 Ways to Stretch Yourself and Find a Hobby You Love
Read through the hobby ideas below and list any that come to mind. It doesn’t have to appeal to anyone else. Be honest about what you like to do, even if it’s not productive or trendy.
记下您应该尝试的任何爱好的观点。
1. Take a closer look at an old or casual interest.
也许您有一个旧的玩具屋，您曾经喜欢装饰 - 直到有人暗示这是“您长大并得到一个真实的屋。”
尝试列出您对所有兴趣的所有事物的清单，即使这些事情听起来没有生产力。以下活动完全重要：
- 在剧院看电影；
- Planning road trips;
- Shopping online.
You can also take a look at things you still enjoy now and then (even if only rarely):
- 骑车杯架；
- 浏览二手书店；
- Bargain hunting at garage sales and flea markets.
2. Actively pursue new experiences that sound “worth a try.”
Are you considering an invitation to do something that might possibly be enjoyable? Maybe you’re debating whether to try it because “It’s not like I could do this regularly.”
如果不能，实际上很好。只要有一次经验，如果它吸引了您at所有的东西都值得一提的是，在您的舒适区域之外踏上了恐惧。
您甚至不必对此充满热情。您可以尝试一下，然后想，“不。对我来说就是这样，谢谢。”或者它可能成为您期待再次做的事情。
Who knows what it could lead to—and how that one experience could change your life?
3. Give someone else’s hobby a chance.
如果您每当有人问，“那么，您的爱好是什么？”考虑一下您喜欢与朋友或家人做的事情。您和您所爱的爱好之间的最短距离可能是您认识的人。
我的意思是，您可以给某人比采用他们的爱好之一，因为您非常喜欢它。他们让你迷上了！
That said, don’t feel as if you’re locked into a hobby you picked up from someone else–simply because you want to hurt their feelings by putting it aside and choosing Netflix instead.
You can just agree to try it — no commitment required.
4.查看您当地的社区日历。
Libraries often have these available for patrons and anyone new to the area. Pick one up and leaf through it for activities you might enjoy:
- Cultural festivals
- Readings from local authors
- Grand openings of new local businesses
- Discounts on admission to local attractions (museums, guided tours, etc.)
- 当地戏剧作品（学校或社区剧院）
- Volunteer opportunities
- 联排厅会议或其他公民聚会
Get better acquainted with your community. You might make some new friends or学习有关自己的新知识. If it scares you a little, it’s probably worth a try.
5. Pay attention to the things you buy as “guilty pleasures.”
也许您是一个几乎可以清理您当地的Aldi，每个假期季节里有40 pc的欧洲巧克力。
Because “this would make a great gift,” and you know, even as you tell yourself that, at least one of those boxes is going straight to your secret stash (you’ve been非常good this year!).
或者，也许您每周挥霍一次，去一家充满有趣宝藏的商店。您总是在那里找到让您微笑的东西。最近，您需要它。
Whether it’s clothing, books, home decor, or retro anything, what you’ve got there is an actual hobby. It’s something you enjoy. It lifts you up.
您正在考虑，现在，不是吗？
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6. Try something related to work you enjoy.
If you enjoy your work and would actually spend some of your free time doing work-adjacent stuff, you could call that—or at least some of what you do — a hobby.
例如，如果您是程序员，并且正在为其调试软件并为其编写文档，那么您也可能会喜欢在业余时间创建移动应用程序。
Or maybe you sell RVs for a living, and you spend some of your free time converting an old van into a mobile home for road trips.
想想您可以做的与您的工作或您想要的工作有关的事情。在追求这种爱好时，您可能开发技巧这使您更容易找到自己喜欢的工作。
7. Give yourself credit for mundane interests (they totally count).
You can’t say you’re a woman or man with no hobbies if you can think of any activities you enjoy.
如果考虑到什么都没有兴趣时，您会想做什么，请考虑下班回家时要做什么。或者，如果您度过了周末，您会怎么做？
如果您在想：“我只想在沙发上崩溃和狂欢观看，请不要感到尴尬Fringe一遍又一遍。或者如果你佤邦nt to go to a theater alone and tune out the world, do that. Maybe you just need to catch up on sleep.
只要您喜欢它，就不必给其他人留下深刻的印象。
8. Give yourself permission to be terrible at something.
Maybe it’s tougher to be interested in something you’re not good at (yet), but that doesn’t mean you have no interest in anything.
For example, let’s say you have a tin whistle, and you’d love to play it like those folks on YouTube who are so good people actually watch their tutorials as entertainment.
但是，las，当您尝试跟随时，结果会使您的头部受伤。仍然……当您坚持下去并且实际上可以播放整首歌而不会犯太多错误时，您会感到自己想经常感到的感觉。
Give yourself permission to do something badly. Everyone starts as a beginner.
9.找到一种较便宜的方式来享受昂贵的爱好。
有时候,站在你的方式是虫胶k of money to buy the thing you need to get started on something that interests you—like learning to play the clarinet or fixing up a classic racecar.
您不能购买任何一个，所以您想：“就这样。我太贫穷了，没有爱好。”
Hold up, though. Maybe you can find the car parts you need on craigslist — or from someone you meet on an online forum. Or maybe you can rent a clarinet from a music store.
购买新东西不是尝试新事物的唯一方法。
现在，您知道如何在没有感兴趣的时候找到一种爱好（至少有所作为），您应该尝试什么爱好？
What comes to mind when you just need to relax or do something that lifts you up and helps you keep going? What are you doing when you feel most alive?
And what will you do differently today?