因此，您与这个了不起的人建立了长途关系。
他是您想要的爱伴侣的一切。她是如此令人兴奋，充满爱心和美丽。
When the two of you are together,it’s magical. You want to spend every moment together learning more about each other and deepening your intimacy.
But there’s just one problem . . .
你们彼此之间的距离很长。
不仅是对面的城镇。我说的是数百英里的地方。在另一个城市，另一个州，甚至在全国范围内。
小时候，我最好的朋友之一有一个游泳池。
Her parents were generous about allowing the neighbor children to come over to swim. But my friend’s mom was quick to admonish us never to pee in the pool.
She told us that urine would turn a purple color, and the purple trail would follow us around the pool, identifying the guilty party.
作为一个成年人，我经常想到，如果紫色小径或警告灯或其他明显的标记确定了您需要远离的操纵人员，那将是多么方便。
You walk down the street and see a light flashing over someone’s head: “Warning:I am toxicand manipulative.”
If we knew from the get-go that someone had these traits, we wouldn’t be fooled by their魅力，需要，被动攻击行为和内gui旅行。
Remember back in school that one kid who was a社会贱民?
您会畏缩地看着他，因为他看起来如此害羞和不舒服。
Maybe he was a little overweight, had a bad complexion, and just seemed a bit dorky. He was sometimes the target for teasing or behind-the-back cruel comments — comments that didn’t go unnoticed by him.
He sat alone at lunch. He walked the halls alone. He never attended social events. Even the teachers stopped calling on him in class because he so loathed having the spotlight on him for just a few seconds.
It was clear he just wanted to disappear into the woodwork — but at the same time you could tell how much he longed for接受和陪伴。
我记得他，那个有卷发的小男孩。他会在课堂上安静地坐着，一直用手指摆弄。
One day, it happened. It started as a small argument between him and the girl sitting next to him over an eraser, and before we knew it, it escalated quickly.
The boy punched the girl repeatedly until her nose started bleeding. He said, “Boys can hit girls.” After that day, I never saw him again.
Back home, I could hear our moms talking about how the poor kid was from a broken family, and how he had probably picked that notion from his father who would beat up his mother regularly.
我不明白那是什么意思，但是现在我做到了。
You can’t believe you’re in this situation.
How did it happen?
一开始，一切都很好。你是如此恋爱。你们真是太好了。
But then things started to change.
The cruel comments. The controlling behaviors. The subtle threats.
一个人的the world who is supposed to love you the most, who’s supposed to have your back and be your closest confidant, is emotionally abusing you.
At first, you didn’t know what was happening. Maybe you thought it was your fault. You hoped it was just an off week, or month, or year.
你喜欢写吗？您希望您能写更多吗？您想为您的写作报酬吗？
如果您对某些或所有这些问题回答“是”，那么该为初学者寻求一些自由职业者写作工作了。
也许您有一些有限的信念，可以阻止您将对写作的热爱转化为工作or side gig. You might not think of yourself as a writer. Or maybe you’re scared of rejection or think no one would hire you.
One of the best ways to improve your writing skills, build your confidence, and create a steady income stream is through freelance writing jobs.
当您初次约会或婚姻初期时，一切都变得轻松而美好。
您是一对完美的夫妻，几乎对自己的生活如此特别，以至于其他夫妇必须感到嫉妒。
但是，一路上的某个地方，挫败感，战斗和分离began to infect your close connection. In fact, you’ve been spending more time wondering how to repair a relationship than you have enjoying it.
Maybe you’ve even considered going to a relationship therapist to help you and your partner fix your relationship or work through conflict.
即便是best relationshipsget broken from time to time. But it’s important that you act quickly to build powerful platform for regaining trust and building intimacy and happiness in your love relationship.
从外面，自恋的人看起来“正常”。
他们通常是迷人的，外向的和被别人崇拜的，只是因为它们看起来如此完美。
但是对您来说，它们绝非完美。
You’re never at ease around the narcissistic person, and you can’t pinpoint exactly why. You can’t reconcile the “perfect” image most people have of the narcissistic person with your experiences behind closed doors.
最糟糕的是，您觉得没有人可以谈论这个人的问题。您如何看待这样的人对他人如此钦佩的人？