“那一天，那一天，在芽中保持紧绷的风险比开花的风险更痛苦。”〜ANAIS NIN
如果您十年前问我这个问题，我的回答将是一个响亮的“不！”
I was too invested in the status quo, plus I had young children. I didn’t want to do anything that might disrupt them. (A very convenient excuse, wouldn’t you say?)
但实际上，我只是害怕风险。
我最近看了电影Hope Springs, in which Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones portray an empty-nester couple on the skids.
After 30-something years of marriage, they sleep in separate bedrooms, no longer have sex, and limit their communication to the necessities.
Tommy Lee comes home from work, sits in his recliner after dinner to watch TV, and promptly falls asleep.
Meryl washes up after dinner, wakes him to go to bed, and they proceed to their separate bedrooms.
如果您像我一样，那么在任何给定时间点，您都会有一些生活困难或小问题。
They can be minor irritants like computer problems or taxes due. And then we have the biggies like coping with ailing parents, issues with our children, marriage problems, or job loss.
大多数时候，我们花费更多的大脑能量worryingabout the issue than we do actually suffering with the reality of it.
If you are reading this post, you have a computer or iPad or smart phone — or at least access to one of these.
这告诉我一些关于您的事情，甚至不认识您。
首先，您显然很聪明和好奇。我并不是说这是因为您正在阅读我的特定帖子。但是，您花了一些时间阅读个人发展博客上的一篇信息文章，以寻求宝贵的信息。您想学习，这很聪明。
但是您正在阅读这篇文章的事实也告诉我，您的财务状况比世界上大多数人都更好。几乎一半的世界（超过30亿人）每天的生活不到2.50美元。每天至少有80％的人类生活不到10美元。
自由意味着您在选择自己的生活中毫不动摇。少的是奴隶制的一种形式。〜韦恩·戴尔（Wayne Dyer）
Not long ago I read one of the most compelling books I’ve ever encountered. Believe it or not, it was a biography of one of our founding fathers — John Adams.
I know. Yawn.
但是请忍受我。
The book is aptly titled,约翰·亚当斯（John Adams）
。It’s by David McCullough, the brilliant biographer who also wrote1776
。But the reason the John Adams book is so compelling isn’t just that it is well-written (it is beautifully written). It’s that the subject of the book is truly fascinating.
当您看约翰·亚当（John Adam）的肖像时，您会看到一个矮胖的小男人，看起来更像是会计师，而不是革命者。但是，当您进一步了解他时，您会发现这个聪明的人无私地将他的一生奉献给一个事业 - 自由。
嘉宾詹妮弗·Boykin of卫生棉条之后的生活
So, this year is turning out to be a dream year for me. And, of course,only Icould make that a bad thing.
Here’s how:
2月，我开展了梦想的业务。我终于给自己做了重要的工作的礼物。我的项目进展非常好。
实际上，我的作品被“大型”的人注意到，现在我是一个令人难以置信的策划人群的一部分，这些都是踢屁股的企业家，这些企业家都在创造改变游戏的业务。
And that’s where the trouble really began.
几周前，我第一次去纽约与我的团队见面。正如您所期望的那样，他们都是很棒的人。我一直在捏自己，甚至被允许在那里。（听到已经蔓延的不安全感吗？）
I learned a lot and, by the time the weekend was over, I was着火做我的工作。
But then . . .
。。。我回家了。
And, waiting for me in my office was my entire Itty Bitty Shitty Committee (IBSC) — otherwise known as the “voices in my head.”
我的IBSC已经和我在一起很长时间了。实际上，这么久，我必须重播他们负面消息on 8-track cassettes.
My IBSC tells me I’m . . .
Is it possible to be happy with yourself right now and still want to change your life?
Can you be content and evolving at the same time?
我相信你可以。
In fact, I think this is a powerful balance we should strive for every day — the balance between happiness in the moment and action toward the best version of ourselves.
Leo Babauta of Zen Habits recently wrote abeautiful poston contentedness.
他建议您不需要等待变革，以便将来更好，在满足之前。如果您选择看到周围的所有美女，您现在可以满足您。
I know this is true. I know we experience life right now, in this moment. This moment is our only reality. If right now is spent longing for some vision of the future, we haven’t truly lived and enjoyed the blessings of right now.
Longing and struggling against “what is” causes suffering. Wishing for more, for something different, for something better at the expense of contentment in the moment robs us of life.
However, as someone who is a seeker and has spent most of my life intrigued by personal development, I have a vision of the best version of myself. I know that inner and outer change, evolution, and transformation will happen to me whether or not I define how that will happen.
但是我知道I can定义如何发生。我有那种个人力量，我宁愿是creatorof my life rather than a reactor to it.
So how does one be a creator and be content at the same time? How do you become the best version of yourself while loving yourself just as you are?
世界是一本书，那些不旅行的人只读一页。〜ST。奥古斯丁
几乎每个人都将旅行列为生活中的激情之一。
我们迷上了主意旅行 - 逃脱，做一些有趣而冒险的事情，看到酷炫的事物，并结识不同的人。这听起来很令人兴奋。