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“Weekends are a bit like rainbows; they look good from a distance but disappear when you get up close to them.” ~John Shirley

Remember when you were in school and Friday would arrive?

有一种光荣的自由和期待感。

Something fun was waiting for you, and the 3:00 bell was the only thing standing in your way.

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Insecure? Reclaim the Joy of Being of You

“If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” ~Vincent Van Gogh

Listen up dear friend — if you feel insecure about yourself, you are not alone.

A few months ago, I surveyed my readers about their most common fears and worries. Feeling insecure was a recurring theme. We tiptoe about on the eggshells of life, afraid that others will see our flaws, our ugliness, our failures.

我们卖空自己。我们阻止自己,因为我们只是不知道 - “它会起作用吗,我会看起来很愚蠢,我有能力吗?他们会喜欢我吗?”

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8个生活课来教你的父母

“而且你是温柔的岁月/不知道你的长老会成长的恐惧,因此请帮助他们与您的青春一起,他们在死亡之前寻求真理。”〜格雷厄姆·纳什(Graham Nash),从这首歌中教你的孩子

客人帖子1440年的乔恩·吉吉蒂(Jon Giganti)。

编者注: As I’ve created my blog and built my online business, I constantly realize how much there is to learn — and that most of the brilliant teachers are years younger than me. In fact, my entire lifestyle outlook has shifted as a result of connecting with theseyounger online experts.我要求乔恩(Jon)写一篇文章,说他认为他这一代人可以教那些比他年龄大的人。这就是他要说的。

It’s 1940. My parents haven’t been born yet. They’re soon to be part of the baby boomer generation and grow up in an age of many changes. TV’s, moon landings, leisure suits, Rock n Roll, Vietnam.

Many in this generation came from immigrant parents (as did mine).

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How to Lighten Up

“Man, unlike the animal, has never learned that the sole purpose of life is to enjoy it.” ~Samuel Butler

我喜爱我的工作。我真的很喜欢它的骨头深处,可以整天坐在我的计算机上写作,创建和与其他人建立联系。

是的,我意识到对我的工作充满热情是多么美妙,但是我也经常学习离开它的重要性。

A healthy lifestyle requires balance, which means we have to lighten up sometimes.

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不要低估自己

“As long as you think that the cause of your problem is ‘out there’ —as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise.” ~Byron Katie

You can dojust aboutanything you set your mind to. Andjust aboutis plenty good for accomplishing more in life than you have time to accomplish.

Yes, there are some things in life that we won’t ever be able to achieve. I will never be a professional ballet dancer no matter how diligently I train. You may not get the specific job you want because the employer won’t hire you.

您可能会充满信心地追求某些东西,然后才能实现它,然后出乎意料地阻止了您。当然,严重的身体或情绪疾病会阻碍您。但是这些是例外。

The rule is that there are millions of things you can accomplish.

When I coach clients, they often revert to the fallback position of over-examining their emotions. Emotions are important and have their place, but they are a smokescreen to taking action.

I try to refocus the client on action. Positive action always makes you feel better. Even one tiny forward movement can be enough to turn around your entire outlook.

以下是一些常见的感受的想法,试图使您摆脱行动:

  • It’s hard. I can’t do it.
  • 我太懒了。我只是没有动力。
  • I don’t really need to be doing this thing. I’m fine the way I am.
  • I’m feeling down right now. I can’t do anything when I feel this way.
  • 我负担不起。
  • 可能会发生不好的事情。人们不会再喜欢我了。我会让他们生气。
  • 我以前对此失败了,所以显然我没有能力。
  • I don’t deserve this. I’m just not good enough.

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Harness the Power of a Healthy Attitude

“态度是一件很大的变化。”〜温斯顿·丘吉尔

您是否曾经有人对您说:“改变您的态度?”我发现自己经常对我的青少年说,他们看着我,就像我要他们变成外星人一样。态度恶劣青少年像白米一样一起去。

In spite of their age-appropriate resistance to a healthy attitude, I remind them that attitude is a choice. Regardless of your life circumstances, you always have to power to change your attitude. And what a power that is.

Your attitude is your disposition, your way of thinking, and the feelings that go along with those. A healthy attitude is characterized by a general sense of well-being and equanimity about life.

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