How to Create Habits That Stick [Updated]

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Habit is a cable; we weave a thread each day, and at last we cannot break it. ~Horace Mann

Isn’t it amazing that every day, we have the ability to reinvent ourselves? We can learn new skills and create habits that make us healthier, more interesting, more productive, and more valuable in the eyes of those around us.

New habits can improve our careers, our financial success, and our relationships — and they give us a huge boost in self-esteem and confidence.

I’m sure you have a habit in mind that you’ve been attempting for several years. Maybe it’s exercise, losing weight,eating better,learning something new, meditating, writing, or de-cluttering your house. Maybe you’ve wanted to take a course or add a new professional skill.

The only problem with self-reinvention through habit creation is this: it’s really hard.

As much as you want to create habits and sustain them (and you really, really do), your desire to keep at it begins to fade away after a few days or weeks. At first it’s fun, then it’s challenging, then it’s work, and finally, it’s forgotten.

Why does this happen?

It has nothing to do with your will power or energy. It has to do with brain chemistry. You haven’t given your brain enough time to fully rewire itself to incorporate your habit as part of your daily routine. And that’s what has to happen — you actually have to retrain your brain.

This may feel like a Catch-22. How can you give your brain enough time to rewire itself if you can’t sustain the motivation to give it time?

It comes down to understanding exactly how habits are formed — and this is truly an art and a science!

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How To Plan A Happy Weekend

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Have you ever looked at your schedule for the upcoming weekend and cringed?

Two days off of work, and it’s crammed with chores, spillover from work, family duties, and activities that fill you with a sense of dread?

You have organized what you需要to do, but is it what you want to do?

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42 Bad Habits That Suck Your Energy

Ever have those days when you feel you’re dragging a ball and chain behind you?hea

Everything is a struggle. Your productivity has tanked, your energy is at rock-bottom, and you just want to crawl in a hole and suck your thumb.

Sometimes it’s easy to identify why we’re so lethargic. We might feel physically ill, the weather is bleak, or the stars are out of alignment. Conditions out of our control can vaporize our energy and smack down our motivation.

Most of the time, however, our fatigue and burn-out is the result of our daily habits. We sabotage ourselves with thoughts and behaviors that create a toxic environment for vitality, well-being, and achievement. You may not even be aware how your own habits are affecting you.

If not, here are 42 bad habits that suck your energy:

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10 Unexpected Ways To Become A Happy Person

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Most people spend a lot of time being unhappy.

If you Google the research on happiness and how many people are happy, you’ll find that unhappy people outnumber the happy ones. The majority people in the U.S. (3 to 1) are unhappy with their work and in general.

Those statistics are daunting and sad. We have one opportunity to live our lives on this beautiful planet, and yet so many of us aren’t enjoying the adventure. In fact, many people find life difficult, unpleasant, or downright painful. But if you ask anyone what they long for most, it’s happiness. We all just want to be happy.

Life presents everyone with challenges and pain, sohappinesscan’t hinge on avoiding these things. We know wealth doesn’t create sustained happiness. In fact, some of the happiest people live in poorer countries such as Brazil, Costa Rica, and Panama. Achievement, fame, power, and material things don’t foster ongoing happiness.

So how do you become a happy person?

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Vulnerability: The Secret To Close Relationships

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Once when I was feeling particularly stressed and overwhelmed, my sister said to me, “Just fall back and let the universe catch you.”

When she said that, a feeling of peace washed over me. How lovely it would be to simply let go and feel completely safe, knowing that everything would be OK. That I was OK. The thought gave me a few moments of respite from my worries. I was free from the pain and pretense of trying to control everything.

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How To Apologize Sincerely

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Sincerely apologizing is an advanced emotional skill.

It requires doing something most of us find extremely difficult — getting past the ego self.

Thethought process leading to an apologyis complex and involves pushing past many internal barriers. We must honestly examine ourselves, our behavior or words, the motivation behind the behavior or words, and the feelings of those we’ve injured or offended.

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72 Uplifting Quotes To Empower Your Day

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Do you enjoy uplifting quotes to motivate you?

Words have incredible power over us.

Your day can begin under a dark cloud. You might feel tired, stressed, or unhappy for some reason. Then someone says one kind word, and the clouds lift. Your motivation and energy seep back in, and you feel uplifted and light again.

Simple letters and words composed in just the right order can change how we think, how we feel, and how we act. They move us, inspire us, and empower us to take action, make positive changes in our lives, and even提振信心and self-esteem.

One of the best ways to immediately improve your mood and motivate yourself is by reading powerful, inspiring words and applying the concepts and insights to your own life.

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