57 Heartbreaking Toxic Parent Quotes To Overcome Your Painful Past

It can be hard enough to admit to yourself, “My parents are toxic.”

The trauma oftoxic parentinggoes deep.

And you might wonder if, without that chunk of your identity, there isn’t much left of you to know.

You didn’t get the chance to see who you might have become without your parents’damaging influence.

你错过这是可以理解的ght think there’s nothing behind the damage worth knowing.

It’s also wrong.

How Toxic Parents Ruin Your Life

It’s no surprise growing up with toxic parents can make your life monumentally harder than it should be. Here are just a few reasons for that:

  • They punish their kids (harshly) for not getting something right the first time;
  • Theyexpect perfectionand punish or devalue anything less than that;
  • They use fear to get their kids to obey—unconditionally and without hesitation;
  • Theyinvalidate their children’s emotionsor punish them for feeling too much;
  • They violate their children’s privacy and personal space;
  • Theygaslighttheir kids and blame them for everything bad that happens;
  • They raise the cost of being vulnerable and needing anything from other people.

It can take years, decades, or a lifetime to process and heal from the effects of toxic parenting. Until then, relationships of any kind feel tenuous at best. It’s harder to believe anyone will see your buried self as someone worth the extra effort of knowing.

Because your parents did not, and hiding is a hard habit to break.

57 Toxic Parent Quotes

Read through the following quotes about toxic parents and make a note of the ones that stand out for you.

You might use the quotes that resonate with your situation as a journaling prompt to help you work through the pain of the past.

Narcissistic Parents Quotes

1. “Dysfunctional parents do not apologise. It is one feature that thechildren of narcissistswould instantly agree on. They will lie and justify themselves, but never accept they did anything wrong.” ― Diana Macey

2. “Getting angry when something about their behaviour is challenged in the nicest way, is a typical reaction of a narcissistic parent.” ― Diana Macey

3. “Narcissist parents don’t care about their children’s feelings at all. Only their feelings matter.” — Kim Saeed

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4. “Parents. Honestly. Sometimes they really do think the world revolves around them.” — Randa Abdel-Fattah

5. “Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.” — Henry Cloud

6. “People tend to raise the child inside of them rather than the child in front of them.” –Joe Newman

7. “In the Narcissistic parent’s eyes, they do no wrong nor do they feel they should be held accountable for the bad and wrong things that they have done.” — Katherine Childress

8. “Family is where you’re meant to be most free, don’t let blood chain you down.” – Michelle Meleen

9. “Narcissistic parents will try to hurt you any way they can emotionally. Be aware that if they can’t get to you directly, they will try to hurt you through your children.” — Tina Fuller

Selfish Parents Quotes

10. “I was worthy of her love whether she gave it to me or not. Every child is worthy of love.” — Richard Paul Evans.

11. “It is the selfish parents who are to blame. Pay attention, be involved in your children’s lives. They are your legacy, your only hope.” — Aaron B. Powell

12. “They should love you, just as you are. Parents should love their kids, right?” “You’d think so.” ― N.R. Walker

13. “Did you have parents or just some people who thought they should own somebody?” — Catherine Lacey

14. “When a father, absent during the day, returns home at six, his children receive only his temperament, not his teaching.” — Robert Bly

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15. “Selfish genes actually explain altruistic individuals, and to me that’s crystal-clear.” — Richard Dawkins

16. “Anyone can have a child and call themselves a parent. Real parents are those who put that child above their own selfish needs and wants.” — Unknown

17. “To all you parents out there, don’t make your little girls, or little boys, so thirsty for love that they will want to drink water that will poison them.” – Lisa Bedrick

18. “The ones that love us least, are the ones we’ll die to please.” – Paul Westerberg

19. “Parenting is not for sissies. You have to sacrifice and grow up.” — Jillian Michaels

20.“父亲,是父亲。超过a figure, be an example.” – Steve Maraboli

21. “Selfish people don’t consider how their decisions affect others. Their own convenience is all that matters.” — Unknown

22. “It is the self parents who are to blame. Pay attention. Be involved in your children’s lives. They areyour legacy, your only hope.” — Aaron B. Powell

Controlling Parents Quotes

23. “Permissiveness is the principle of treating children as if they were adults; and the tactic of making sure they never reach that stage.” — Thomas Szasz

24. “As long as you continue to react so strongly to them, you give them the power to upset you, which allows them to control you.” –Susan Forward

25. “The most loving parents and relatives commit murder with smiles on their faces. They force us to destroy the person we really are: a subtle kind of murder.”– Jim Morrison

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26. “Parents have got to chill out. Let your kid eat dirt – they’re gonna be fine!” — Jeff Garlin

27. “A lot of parents will do anything for their kids except let them be themselves.” — Banksy

28. “Too bad for any parent who has become accustomed to ruling by force, because at some point the kids just get too big to slap around.” – Barbara Ehrenreich

29. “Children are not born for the benefit of their parents, neither are they the property of their family. Children belong to the future.” ― Anthon St. Maarten

30. “Who said that parents’ beliefs should be adopted by their children?” ― Lukasz Laniecki

31. “Control leaves no room for trust.” ― Glennon Doyle

32. “Controllers, abusers and manipulative people don’t question themselves. They don’t ask themselves if the problem is them. They always say the problem is someone else.” — Darlene Ouimet

33. “Great parenting happens when you start controlling yourself and stop controlling your child” — Unknown

34. “Are you a controlling parent? Are you devoting too much attention to your child? If the answer is yes, then turn some of that attention toward your parents. If you are good to your own parents, then your child will learnhow to treat youin the future.” — Haemin Sunim

35. “Instead of promoting healthy development, they unconsciously undermine it, often with the belief that they are acting in their child’s best interest.” ― Susan Forward

36. “The more dysfunctional, the more some family members seek to control the behaviour of others.” – David W. Earle


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Abusive Parents Quotes

37. “Fear-based parenting is the surest way to create intimidated children.” — Tim Kimmel

38. “If mental abuse was a punishable crime, a lot of parents would be in jail serving a long term.” — Maddy Malhotra

39. “Too bad for any parent who has become accustomed to ruling by force, because at some point the kids just get too big to slap around.” — Barbara Ehrenreich

40. “Spanking a child is about the parent not the child. The child will learn more from positive correction than physical manipulation.” — Asa Don Brown

41. “Fighting became a way of life and seemed perfectly normal for your family.”– Steven Farmer

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42. “In the minds of my parents, they are the victims; I am the abuser.” — Christina Enevoldsen

43. “Some scars don’t hurt. Some scars are numb. Some scars rid you of the capacity to feel anything ever again.” — Joyce Rachelle

44. “In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted. It’s talking about them that is forbidden.”– Marcia Sirota

45.“当你悲伤有毒,虐待父母,你don’t just grieve the abuse, you grieve everything you didn’t have.” — Lily Hope Lucario

46. “Parental Alienation is an emotional act of violence that is aimed at an adult, but critically wounds a child.” — Steve Maraboli

47. “If your parents ignored you, or if they are just not emotionally available, or if they yell a lot, that is a type of trauma.” — Tucker Max

48. “All parents damage their children. This was their life together. Neglect. Violence. Silence.” — Mitch Albom

49. “Abuse grows from attitudes and values, not feelings. The roots are ownership, the trunk is entitlement, and the branches are control.” ― Lundy Bancroft

50. “Many neglected and abused children grow up to be adults who are afraid to take risks of striking out on their own. Many will remain dependent on their abusive parents and unable to separate from them. Others leave their abusive parents only to attach themselves to a partner who is controlling.” — Beverly Engel

51. “An unpredictable parent is a fearsome god in the eyes of a child.” ― Susan Forward

52. “Fighting became a way of life and seemed perfectly normal for your family.” — Steven Farmer

Conclusion

Now that you’ve looked through all 57 toxic parenting quotes, which ones helped you feel less alone?

Or do any remind you of relationships that have suffered because you still find it hard to let people in?

If you’re reading this, it’s not too late to choose differently despite the risks.

You’re more resilient than you know. And as hard as you may think it is to know you, you’re well worth the effort. It’s not your fault your parents didn’t see that.

Overcoming a hurtful past with your parents is never an easy thing to do. Help yourself as you read through this collection of toxic parent quotes.