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10 Healing Steps To Move On From A Relationship

March 16, 2023March 19, 2017 byBarrie Davenport

Getting over a break-up is gut-wrenching. There’s no other word for it.

I have been both the recipient and the instigator of ending a relationship, and both scenarios create their own brand of personal anguish.

I still ache at the feelings of rejection I experienced when I heard the words, “I want to break up.”

And I feel a surge of sadness and guilt recalling the times I had to say, “I’m sorry but this isn’t working out.”

For me, the end of a romantic relationship almost felt like a death, as I invest so much emotional energy into the connection. Getting past a breakup always required that I go through the typical stages of grief and loss.

8 Ways To Cope In Emotionally Abusive Relationships

November 30, 2020December 5, 2016 byBarrie Davenport

You can’t believe you’re in this situation.

How did it happen?

Everything was so great in the beginning. You were so in love. You were such a great couple together.

But then things started to change.

The cruel comments. The controlling behaviors. The subtle threats.

世界wh的一个人o is supposed to love you the most, who’s supposed to have your back and be your closest confidant, is emotionally abusing you.

At first, you didn’t know what was happening. Maybe you thought it was your fault. You hoped it was just an off week, or month, or year.

13 Ways To Cultivate Emotional Maturity

April 4, 2023November 3, 2016 byBarrie Davenport

Do you know what emotional maturity means?

If you’ve ever hung around a toddler or a teenager for any length of time, you know what emotionalimmaturitylooks like.

If the toddler doesn’t get her way, she might scream, stomp, and fall on the floor in a fit of rage and frustration. Toddlers have very few filters preventing them from expressing their inner worlds in a most dramatic fashion.

Teenagers have more filters but still don’t have a fully-formed prefrontal cortex, the brain’s rational thinking arena.

Why Do Women Stay In Bad Relationships?

July 3, 2021July 1, 2016 byBarrie Davenport

Why Do Women Stay In Abusive Relationships

From an outsider’s perspective, it seems pretty straightforward. If someone is abusing you, physically, verbally, or emotionally — you leave.

Why would you stay with someone who is causing you pain, making you afraid, or even damaging your children?

Why would you put up with such despicable, destructive behavior from the person who is supposed to love you the most?

It might seem clear to those who aren’t in an abusive relationship, but the reality is far from simple. Abusive relationships are like spider webs that trap the victim in a cycle of confusion, fear, hope, and despair. The complexity of these relationships is hard to understate.

The man who was once caring and charismatic has turned into a Dr. Jekell – Mr. Hyde whose behavior is unpredictable, manipulative, and even violent. The poison of abuse can be subtle and insidious at first, only to escalate as the victim becomes more compliant and fearful.

Is A Narcissistic Personality Bullying You?

February 16, 2022November 11, 2015 byBarrie Davenport

You might initially be attracted to his confidence.

There’s a part of you that feels excited, even lucky, to be in his presence.

His charm and charisma are intoxicating.

If you’re a caring, sensitive person, you don’t mind offering him praise, catering to his needs, and listening to his complaints. Little do you know that yourhighly sensitive nature is a magnet for a narcissist.

You are willing to give, give, give, and he (or sometimes she) is always ready to take, take, take.

It can take months, or even years to realize what’s happening and how this person you care about is slowly sucking you dry, manipulating you, and bullying you into doing his bidding.

Vulnerability: The Secret To Close Relationships

August 20, 2020June 10, 2014 byBarrie Davenport

Once when I was feeling particularly stressed and overwhelmed, my sister said to me, “Just fall back and let the universe catch you.”

当她说,一个和平的感觉了me. How lovely it would be to simply let go and feel completely safe, knowing that everything would be OK. That I was OK. The thought gave me a few moments of respite from my worries. I was free from the pain and pretense of trying to control everything.

How To Apologize Sincerely

November 26, 2020May 27, 2014 byBarrie Davenport

Sincerely apologizing is an advanced emotional skill.

It requires doing something most of us find extremely difficult — getting past the ego self.

Thethought process leading to an apologyis complex and involves pushing past many internal barriers. We must honestly examine ourselves, our behavior or words, the motivation behind the behavior or words, and the feelings of those we’ve injured or offended.

How To Rekindle Your Relationship And Fall In Love Again

March 18, 2022April 4, 2014 byBarrie Davenport

Stop reading for a moment, and think back to the first few weeks after you met your spouse or love partner.

Actually, try to visualize an early date where you were cuckoo for CoCo Puffs about this amazing person. And they felt the same about you.

Remember how it feltfalling in love, how happily distracted you were, how you couldn’t wait to see her — how everything he said was interesting and funny.

Remember how you felt the two of you were special? Meant for each other. Destined to be together.

And now . . . not so much.